Thanks all. I ended up putting a hose on as is. I'm nearing the end of my rope with this damn thing (my entire water situation, not just the softener, although that obviously started this).
Earlier in the day i had mixed iron out in water and ran a regeneration to get the softener to draw it in and let it sit for 3 hours by unplugging and bypassing it, last chance at clearing it up before I have them replace. That part was easy but it finished its regeneration and then the radon filter tank filled with a few gallons of that water which was bad so I needed to refill that.
So I decided to replace the sediment filter because dirty and drain the pressure tank and pipes to get all the sediment out, and then the water came out as orange at the end again like tomato juice or similar so I am confused at this point and then I realized it was slowly draining water from the bottom of the water heater because i heard the bubbles gurgling in the pipe so that explains some of the the orange water before, sediment/iron in the bottom of the water heater but I had not expected the water heater to be able to drain vertically. The drain on the pressure tank is slightly lower but there's a lot of pipe in between, was stunned to have seen that.
So I blocked off the water heater inlet and refilled and then drained the tank/pipes several times to get my mistake out of there and it eventually runs clear, and then I replace the sediment filter, flush it as instructed and then refill the radon filter tank. Also on refill the filter gets visibly sediment covered, which is very strange because there is very little sediment in the water when draining via the hose, so I am thinking it is sediment scattered in the pipes that only comes out when the radon filter pulls the water fast.
However, problem this morning as I believe I am smelling residual iron out in the water, or a byproduct of it or something. The smell is very chlorine like and has never been present in the water before and it doesn't make much sense as at most about 1/7 of the radon filter tank had this water in it and it has since been flushed and refilled 2 to 3 times.
Clearly I know just enough to get into trouble but not actually fix anything. Perhaps if I'd blocked off the water heater inlet on my previous attempt and certainly if I didn't forget to bypass the water softener/trigger an actual regen after running the iron out through it I would be in a lot better shape. At this point my main concern is drinking the water which I have avoided.
If you've made it this far, thank you and I apologize for the ranting nature of it.
Edit: To clarify, the softener was bypassed after I realized the issue early on so that's not something I overlooked, and is still bypassed, so that can't be the explanation for the water still smelling.