Thanks guys,
After sending a picture and saying I needed an exact replacement, when I picked up the breaker at the local electrical supply, the new one has a round edge that protrudes higher than the original, which has a 45 degree slope, that sits under the red metal plate. They said, just file it down to fit
20 amp double pole $$$$$95 plus tax, that doesn't fit without extra labor. To add insult to injury, after installed, one side, no power, a defective fn breaker. ( the breaker in the photo is a 40, and not fully seated, but it shows the physical discrepancy
And yes, the breakers are really hard to pull out. Surprisingly, there are no signs of burning.
Question.....how are these supposed to be installed, pushed straight in, or angled right side in first? I was trying to angle it in putting the right side in first, ended up bending the aluminum bus bar a little.