The reason the water stagnates in a bladder tank is the lack of a pressure bandwidth. The variable speed pumps are always at a constant pressure. If set at 40 PSI, the system is always at 40 PSI. If the pressure never changes, no water ever goes in the tank or out of the tank. It doesn't matter if it is a 1 gallon tank or a 119 gallon tank. The water that is in the tank, stays in the tank and just gets old and stagnate. The only time water will actually leave the tank is when there is a power outage. If the pump does not come on, the pressure will lower when you use water, and the stagnate water in the tank will be dumped into the house and out the faucet. The Flexcon Flow Through tank is a very good idea for variable speed pumps. This tank has a small jet that sends water up into the tank when water is going past it down the line. The jet causes a current to flow through the tank, which keeps the water fresh even though the level in the tank never changes. Because the level in the tank never changes and the pressure is always at 40 PSI, the pump must start for every glass of water. The pump must start every time you wash a tooth brush, or the ice maker fills, so the size of the tank is of no importance.
This creates lots of cycles during the day but, they do have a soft start which helps. The real problem with not being able to use any water from a tank is when there is a leak. Forget to giggle the handle toilet, or a dripping faucet can cause a variable speed pump to ramp up and down every few seconds constantly until something breaks. The variable speed pump uses a computer for control and this constant ramping would be like putting software in a loop or starting and stopping your computer every few seconds. How long could you do this before your computer locks up? Which with a variable speed pump also leaves you out of water.
The CSV mimics the function of a variable speed pump. It also varies the flow to match the use, which keeps the pressure constant. The differences are that the CSV is a simple valve with one moving part, not a computer. The CSV also only holds the pressure constant while you are using the water. When you turn off the faucet, the CSV allow the tank to fill to 50 PSI before the pump shuts off. Then you have a tank full of water, any size tank you want, to use before the pressure drops to 30 and the pressure switch restarts the pump. When the pump is started the CSV holds 40 PSI steady until you are no longer using the water, and the tank is filled again. The larger the tank, the less times the pump will start for intermittent uses. Regardless of the size of tank, the pump will stay running and the CSV will hold 40 PSI constant when water is used for longer periods.
Speed is right either way, if you want back up water, get a generator. I would use a CSV and about a 20 gallon tank that actually holds 5 gallons of water.