We were looking into a fleck 5600sxt with 64,000 grain
That system would contain 2 cuft of softening resin.
That size softener will support up to ~13 gpm which should be plenty based on your current consumption rate, plumbing configuration and occupancy.
For efficient salt utilization, you could use as little as 12 lbs of salt per regeneration cycle, but the usable capacity provided at that setting would then be 40,000 grains (40K).
At 70 gallons/day X 30 gpg = 2,100 grains/day required.
40K usable capacity divided by 2,100 grains/day = ~19 days expected between regeneration cycles at your current water consumption rate. Regeneration will be more frequent if you utilize more water. That size softener will work great for you in both salt efficiency and water savings through infrequent regeneration, and will provide plenty of capacity for an additional person.
If you consumed water at the more common average of 60 gallons/day X 3 ppl X 30 gpg, you would then require 5,400 grains/day.
40K / 5,400 = ~ 7 days between regeneration cycles. For efficiency, it is generally desirable to regenerate no more than 1X per week which the system and salt setting satisfies that expectation with 3 people.