Do you have a recommendation for which sediment filter?
We nearly always have a sulfer smell. Sometimes it is strong and sometimes its weak.
If you get a backwashing filter that goes before the softener, that can take care of the sulfur smell. It can remove the iron, letting your softener just soften.
If you want to consider this, the first question is how many gallons per minute (gpm) can your pump provide for backwashing? Katalox Light (KL) is well-recommended media. It handles iron, H2S, and more. With 1.5 cubic ft of media, that needs about 8 or 9 gpm of backwashing. You should also consider how many gpm you use. I am not sure how many people consider that, but if you plan to put high flow through a filter, you might consider upsizing. Bigger requires more backwash gpm. Were I buying new, I am not sure which way I would go. From just reading, I would go with the KL, but my experience has been flawless with my water. Water differs.
A backwashing filter takes out most incoming solids, so there is little for a filter cartridge to get after. I ordered my cartridge filters before deciding to get the backwashing filter. I went with 20x4.5 cartridges in Big Blue housings. One would have been plenty, but I have 3. I keep one housing empty, and change the cartridges maybe every 1.5 years.
My iron+sulfur backwashing filter uses Centaur Carbon, and uses 5 gpm backwash. It works very well for me, but my iron is substantially less than yours. I got it mainly for the H2S (sulfur) smell. My unit injects some bleach during regeneration every 3 days, and then rinses that out before the filter goes back into service. I have my backwashing filter right after the pressure tank, and I use a sediment filter before the softener.
The water after the filter is nice for drinking because it maintains the calcium and magnesium. Because I would need to fill a water jug in the basement, I usually drink the softened water.
Sanitizing a well will normally help with a smell for at least a while, and it offers some other advantages.
A water heater anode can contribute to H2S production. If your smell was mainly hot water, you might just consider a powered anode. It protects like magnesium, but it does not contribute to H2S.
A Fleck 9100 is a dual tank softener, so you may have a Fleck 5600SXT or some other.