LLigetfa
DIYer, not in the trades
The first thing I would do is remove and inspect that checkvalve near the tank. If you replace it with a new chackvalve or substitute a ball vale there just for a test, that would confirm or refute that water is running back towards the well. If you chose to test with a ballvalve and the pressure drops, engaging the switch, make sure the valve is opened right away since it will deadhead the pump and/or burst the poly pipe.
If a new checkvalve there stops the backflow, you should still determine why the water is flowing back. If there is an underground leak, then contaminated water could enter the system which is why topside checkvalves are illegal in many States.
If a new checkvalve there stops the backflow, you should still determine why the water is flowing back. If there is an underground leak, then contaminated water could enter the system which is why topside checkvalves are illegal in many States.