Ok I bought the cast iron replacement flange and it seems to fit ok. I didn't remove the old flange though, I'm still trying to figure out the heights to see if I need to. I need to raise the height of my floor anyway, to create a stable subfloor around these tricky areas of pipe.
If I remove the old flange, I'll build up the plywood, then tile, and secure the new flange into the plywood and have it sitting flush with the tile. As long as it's secured to the floor, and the rubber seal fills any gap in the pipe, I should be golden right?
I may be able to keep the old flange in, and just treat it as part of the pipe. As long as there's a layer in between the old and new flange, and it's secure I should be good.
Hopefully I'm not missing something here. Since my rough-in is 10.5", I'm looking to get the AS Cadet 3 10" rough in toilet. The reviews seem favorable here. I was originally going to get the only 10" rough available locally at HD, a Pegasus Cottage...which don't have favorable reviews.