yes, I know but I don't like the extra 2" sticking out (so shoot me I am a woman!).
Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.
Let's review, because you're about to come to tears.
If you install the Toto toilet that was "too pricey", you will end up with a normal-size toilet pulled 2" closer to the wall than would otherwise be the case on a 14" rough-in. It will look as if you have a normal toilet on a 12" rough-in.
The other toilets you are talking about don't do this. They put what is in essence a 12" rough-in bowl on a 14" rough-in, and it protrudes into the room just exactly the same as if you put a 12" rough-in toilet there. Then, they have a big 2" gap behind the toilet to deal with, so they give you a bigger tank or otherwise adjust the location of the tank so that it fills that bigger gap better. That's all they do. They don't move the location of the outlet on the bowl forward two inches, so it goes in exactly the same place as a 12" rough-in toilet does, and protrudes into the room exactly as much as a 12" toilet would. ALL THEY DO IS FILL THE BIGGER GAP
BEHIND THE TOILET. THEY DO NOTHING TO AFFECT WHERE THE FRONT OF THE TOILET IS LOCATED. And don't let anybody in an apron at Home Depot tell you any different. If they do so, they are LYING.
The Toto with the Unifit compensates for the fact that you have a rough-in that's two inches further into the room, by pulling the whole toilet two inches closer to the wall. NONE OF THE OTHER TOILETS YOU ARE CONSIDERING DO THAT.
To put a finer point on it, the A/S spec sheet for the 12" and 14" rough-in versions of that toilet show that the dimensions of the two bowls are IDENTICAL, and the outflow hole is in EXACTLY the same place on both. The spec sheet just shows one of them being set 1-1/4" further from the wall, which is essentially a lie. It will sit TWO inches further from the wall. The 14" tank is almost an inch deeper than the 12" tank, and the gap between it and the wall is bigger than on the 12". That's it.
ONLY the Toto gives you the ability to take a toilet of the same dimensions and mount it so the front and back of it sit the same distance from the wall as they would on a 12" rough in.