Thanks both of you. I have a backwashing filter set to regen every three days, and the softener set to go every 6 for now. So I was trying to make sure these regens would not overlap. Since I was thinking wrong before, there was a 50% chance that I would put the softener regen on the same night as the filter regen. Fortunately, while I was regenerating on a different night than I was thinking, it turns out I still was doing it on separate nights. I have a spreadsheet to track the schedule that I could use to put things back in phase if there was a power outage. I know I did not need the spreadsheet, but the spreadsheet was easy. It also predicts when the solution tank needs refilling.
To detect when a regen had occurred, I had ground down a steel washer to fit in the horizontal slot of the red knob. The thinking was that the washer would fall out as that knob rotated through a regen. Somehow it seemed it would fall out even when there was no regen. (The washer has a string so I don't have to search for it.) I will re-try that test. Maybe it was doing OK but I had only thought it had fallen out early.